Perimenopause marks the time leading up to menopause, the time when a woman's monthly cycles end. During perimenopause, a woman's normal hormone levels change, she experiences menstrual irregularities, and she may start to worry about her ending fertility. Perimenopause lasts between two and eight years, according to the Mayo Clinic, so explain to your husband or partner what you are experiencing and what to expect in order to maintain relationship harmony during this potentially difficult time.
Instructions
1. Keep track of your perimenopause symptoms such as irregular periods, hot flashes, sleep changes and changes in sexual desire or feelings. Perimenopause is not a medical condition, but rather a normal change of life; however, uncomfortable symptoms could signal a more serious underlying gynecological condition. See a doctor to rule out more significant problems if your symptoms become troubling.
2. Make time for the discussion with your husband. Don't try to fit it in between carpool arranging and household budget negotiations. This is an important emotional and physical concern for you and for the marriage. Ask him for his undivided attention and give yours to him.
3. Tell your husband about the symptoms you're experiencing. Refer to your notes if necessary. Add your doctor's ideas if you saw a doctor about your perimenopause.
4. Understand that your husband may have heard of menopause but not perimenopause. Give him a chance to ask questions, and have your computer with medical websites bookmarked to help you answer. Explain that lowered sex drive, vaginal dryness, upset sleep patterns and emotional rawness may all be symptoms of perimenopause. Ask for his patience and understanding during this time.
5. Propose solutions to marital problems caused by perimenopause symptoms. If your sex life is suffering, explain that you are just as concerned as he is and come to the conversation ready with a proposed solution like water-based lubrication or prolonged foreplay. Remain positive and focus on the solution, rather than the challenges. Assume that your husband has already noticed the changes you are feeling and keep the conversation on track with positive ideas for change.
6. Take your husband's questioning and concerns as genuine concern for your welfare and that of your marriage rather than assuming he is criticizing you or trying to hurt your feelings. Write down any questions you and your husband have and present them to your doctor at your next physical.
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